Category Archives: Driving

Teens Still Texting While Driving – But Stats Show Parents Can Make a Difference

As I watched the evening news tonight, there was yet another horrible and sad story. One of our local teens was tragically killed in an auto accident.  And sadly, according to the early news reports, texting was involved in the accident.

As they showed the smiling senior portrait of the stunningly beautiful young woman, I just cannot imagine what her parents, family and friends are going through right now.

As parents of teen drivers, it’s just our worst nightmare.

In this age of needing instant access to information, what can a parent do? The key is to talk to our kids and reinforce the message of the danger of texting and driving. That message can wait. We want you to arrive safe.

If you haven’t seen or shared this video with your driving teen yet, you may want to. I will caution you that it’s quite graphic (it’s a UK video), but it’s also very real.

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The Statistics

State Farm conducted a survey (using Harris Interactive) surveying the attitudes and driving behaviors of 652 teens, ages 14 to 17 back in February.  The auto insurer previously did this in 2010.

Their findings:

  • 35% of those with drivers licenses strongly agree that if they regularly text and drive they will be killed BUT 57% strongly agree that regularly drinking while driving will be fatal  
  • 63% strongly agree they will get into an accident if they regularly text and drive while 83% strongly agree they will get into an accident if they regularly drink and drive

The Key:  To Talk, Talk, Talk to Our Young Drivers

The survey also showed a sharp decline in interaction between parents and teen drivers after the teen received their driver’s license:  

  • Teens that have a learner’s permit are more than twice as likely as those who already have a license to report that they talk very often with their parents about driving: 46% vs. 22%.
  • The first year after receiving a license brings the highest lifetime crash risk.

One thing the survey discovered is the vital role that parents play in teen texting and driving:

  • Of the teens who text and drive, 67% talk often with their parents about it.
  • That increases to 82% among teens who never text while driving.

As pointed out in its press release, insurer State Farm says that “many teens might still be ignoring the message.”

“The conversation should not end when teens get their license,” says said Chris Mullen, Director of Technology Research at State Farm in the company’s press release. “Through this survey and other teen driver research, we know that ongoing parental involvement in the learning process is key to keeping teen drivers safe behind the wheel.”

April has been designated as Distracted Driving Month which will bring additional focus to the subject matter. Glee’s (FOX) season premiere focuses on a character involved in a distracted driving incident.

Driving Part II: Still Little in Our Eyes

I’ve noticed that Subaru has just started showing this commercial again (in fair disclosure, I am not being endorsed to blog about this, although I do now own an older model Outback).

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Although our kids really don’t get this commercial, as parents, we absolutely do.

Especially those of us who do have teenagers and teen drivers.

Do you ever look at your teens and wonder, “Where in the world have the years gone?” and “How did you grow up so fast?”

Wouldn’t it be great if we could just slow that time clock? Just a little bit, so we can enjoy them a little bit more.

A Driving Daughter … and a Mom Trying to Let Go

Courtesy of nittanyquillonline.com

As I was finishing my last post, my oldest daughter stopped by, saw the subject matter on my laptop and once again kidded me about being a helicopter mom.

And then we both laughed over an incident that she will forever remember.

K only had her license a few days, having successfully mastered the challenge of parallel parking which kept eluding her. I should point out, that she took the test in the car she would be driving, which was a large SUV. Not an easy task.

It was summer and she was so excited about passing her test.  She was to meet a school group at the local Starbucks later that night to start work on a fundraising project.  K couldn’t wait to drive herself and not rely on someone else.

Out Starbucks is only about 5 minutes from our home, but it’s near a very busy intersection and one where I have witnessed more than my share of accidents.

“K, please, make SURE you text me when you get to Starbucks to let me know you got there.”

“No prob, Mom.”

“Don’t forget….,” I yelled as the door closed behind her.

I watched her drive away and I wondered if she would be safe. Her first trip out. I was so not ready for this. And then I waited for the text.

And waited.

And waited.

No text.

Not wanting to be overbearing, but starting to get worried, I texted her.

No response.

I texted her again.
Nothing.

So, I called.

It went RIGHT to voicemail.

Now I am just thinking the very worst.

Major multi-car accident. Nasty circumstances. Not pretty.

I called again. Right to voicemail.

But I swore that one that I would NOT do was to drive to Starbucks and humiliate her.  

I would do the next best thing – while relieving my worry.

I called Starbucks.

The manager answered and was quite pleasant. I simply explained that I was looking for my daughter who would probably be with a group of about 10 people and would he terribly mind if he would ask for her and have her put her on the phone (I was trying to spare her the embarrassment of calling me from the table, should she NOT be in the above mentioned horrific accident).

He told me that it would be no trouble at all (thank you, thank you, Starbucks!).

It was silent for a few moments, and then to my relief, I heard my daughter’s voice.

She said later that her high school advisor thought it was “way cool” that her mom cared enough to  check up on a new driver but she said she could have crawled under the table when the manager walked up and asked for her BY NAME and told her she had a phone call.

As for me, I’ve loosened up quite a bit since her first big solo drive out.

But I don’t think I will ever stop worrying about her. I think that’s just part of my job as a mom.  

And K, she does remember to text me now. But only when we agree she needs to.