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Insight into Mother’s Day

My sisters and me (I'm on the far left)

 

 

 

 

 

 

“A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write to the woman who has done more for you than anyone in the world. And candy! You take a box to Mother — and then eat most of it yourself. A pretty sentiment.”

                                                – Anna Jarvis, Founder of Mother’s Day

There’s no mistaking that today is Mother’s Day.

The stores, florists and e-commerce sites have been preparing for this holiday since Peter Cottontail hit the Bunny Trail.

As we near the day’s 100th celebration, I’m sure if Anna Jarvis were alive today, she would not be pleased at the day’s celebration. She surely wasn’t happy with the “commercialism” of it back in the 1920s, although I am struggling with what that really looked like. Printed cards? Flowers? What would dear Anna say to an iPad? Yikes.

How I am celebrating the day? Well, with both of my girls covering shifts at their place of employment, my husband took over, making me a wonderful breakfast. Plus, coffee, paper and the TODAY show. What more could I want?  Then later, we’ll get together with my husband’s side of the family for a cookout and I’ll call my parents, who live out-of-state and my sisters who also don’t live nearby (sorry, Mom, the cards will be late again this year!!).

But in Anna Jarvis fashion, when I think of Mother’s Day. I think of past Mother’s Days and handmade cards, homemade breakfasts (although I cringe to think what they must have tasted like!), and hand crafted gifts we presented each year. But mostly, I think of my mom and the other strong women in my family and what they have taught me along the way. It’s made me who I am today. These are the things that have stuck with me and things I have taught my kids – and others (yes, members of my former Girl Scout troops!) as well.

So here it goes:

  1. Always leave a place cleaner than you found it. (My grandmother and mom were both die-hard Girl Scouts and when I got married, my husband’s mom and her mom were also of this same philosophy!)
  2. If you get something out, put it back where it belongs. (This one not only helps make your mom stay sane but comes in handy when you grow up and have roommates. I am struggling to help my youngest learn this one. She is of the camp that believes you need to have multiple homes for things).
  3. Ask! What’s the worst thing someone can say? (Shoot for the stars! So what if they say no? If you don’t ask, you can’t get where you want to go!).
  4. Don’t be late. (If you’re on time, you’re late. And if you’re early, you’re on time. Employers want people who are going to be on time).
  5. Don’t lean on your broom handle. (Don’t stand around not doing anything. If you are all done your chores, ask for more to do).
  6. Believe in yourself and respect yourself. (Even if things don’t seem to be going your way or you’re taking the hard road, respect will get you where you eventually need to go).
  7. You’re guilty by association. (Choose your friends carefully.)
  8. It doesn’t look good. (This one applied more to my youngest sister. It was not a reference to her attire but more to whatever she was doing. It just never looked good. She must have listened, since she did still grew up without any major incidences!).

And then I just must finish with this:

The statements my Mom used that I swore I would not use with my kids:

  • Well, when I was your age…
  • Who died and left you in charge/boss/queen?
  • What part of NO didn’t you understand?
  • Yes, I DO have eyes in the back of my head.
  • You’re the oldest. You should know better (As the oldest, I seriously SWORE I would NEVER EVER say that. Sorry, daughter #1).
  • Do you think money grows on trees?
  • If so-and-so jumps of a bridge, would you do that too? (I have modified this to be: Well, I’m not so-and-so’s mom).

And my all-time favorite:

  • Because I said so!!

Somehow it does all come around again. And MY kids are saying that they won’t use these lines.

We’ll see about that.

So, to my wonderful mother, thank you. And to my amazing two sisters, my terrific mother-in-law and my awesome sister-in-law, Happy Mother’s Day!

May every mother reading this have a truly wonderful day …

Please Don’t Dye the Peeps

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Courtesy of mnn.com (Danish Khan, photo credit)

Peeps and bunnies have long been associated with Easter.

But neon colored peeps?

I didn’t know about this until I read it in a story in the New York Times this week, but coloring peeps is a normal practice for parts of the U.S. 

I guess Philadelphia has been left out of that bizarre tradition.  

I have never seen a neon colored peep, and quite frankly, the thought of either injecting the incubating egg with dye or spraying a little hackling with dye just makes me shake my head.

But then, people dye poodles pink, right?

The difference is that these cute little colorful peeps go to homes with kids. And soon the novelty wears off, the animals are cast away. Parents then need to find a home for them (and I’m sure a number of them simply get dumped).  

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I’m not saying that peeps and chickens aren’t wonderful additions to a family – BUT, you just can’t lightly enter into adding them to your family.  I couldn’t find exact statistics of the “backyard chicken boom” that has hit this country since the economy has taken a turn over the past few years.  The lack of statistics may be due to those who are keeping their new pets “underground” or in violation of local ordinances. Yet Backyardchickens.com – a leading website on raising chickens – boasts more than 127,000 members on its site. I imagine most of those members did not get their start with chickens by adopting neon peeps.

Three things to consider regarding Easter Peeps:

  1. If you want to purchase peeps for your children at Easter, consider instead “renting” them.  A quick search on Google showed me a few places in my area that will rent you a handful of peeps – complete with all supplies – for a few weeks. When your kids are tired of them, YOU RETURN THEM.
  2. If you truly want to keep them as pets, please do your homework first. Peeps turn into chickens, and sometimes there may be a rooster or two (roosters are almost always prohibited in suburban and urban areas). Check your local ordinances and identify what supplies you’ll need. Read up on the feed and care (including identifying who will take care of the girls when you are out of town). If you can’t care for them properly, DON’T get them.
  3. If you are still not convinced, I recommend you read this blogger’s personal story of what happened when she took in neon peeps to raise … in the country.

My recommendation:  if you want multi-colored neon peeps, try the marshmallow kind!

Easter Egg Hunts: For Kids Only, Please

As my kids grew up, I’ve witnessed more than my share of helicopter parents:

  • Moms who just couldn’t bear to be separated from their kids in elementary school so they managed to go on ALL the field trips as well as were the homeroom moms, reading moms, lunchroom helper moms and then PTA event chair of some event or another …. just to be closer to their kids during the day.
  • Parents who DO the projects and papers for the kids (or it’s just plain obvious to figure that out when they are on display in the school) and those who micromanage their kids grades on line, critiquing each and every homework and quiz.
  • Moms who routinely call their college students to wake them up for class during my train ride into the city (from the conversations I overhead, this was simply a wakeup call for class. No important interview. No Earth-shattering presentation. No final. Just class.).

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As parents, we do need to keep an eye on what our kids are doing. But, as they get older, it’s critical to give them guidance and responsibility along the way. Too much hovering will instill that they CAN’T do it, and that’s the complete opposite of what a parent wants.  Our job is to promote a “CAN DO” attitude.  One day they will grow up and go off on their own and don’t we all want them to be the most confident and responsible kids they can be? Let them make the little mistakes now, while those mistakes can be little, we can guide them and they are still living with us.

Growing up, my parents were the traditional suburban “parents of the 80s.”  They were available for help if I needed it, but I knew of the expectations set out for me, as well as the corresponding consequences if I fell short.  Meaning:  study hard, get good grades or college would be out of the question. It was as simple as that. For me, it put ME in charge of my destiny.  I also think it’s how I developed my independence.  And I always knew they were there to support me – if I needed them. Hovering? It never figured into the equation.

So that brings me to the troubling news story I saw tonight.

Tomorrow, many communities, churches and organizations across the U.S. will hold their traditional Easter Egg Hunt. Yet, for a few, there will be no hunt tomorrow as they have had to CANCEL their annual festive Easter Egg Hunts. Why? Not because of inclement weather, or lack of funding, or some crisis or another.  

It’s because of PARENTS who can’t behave. Hovering, helicopter parents who cannot let kids be kids. Parents who push and shove and well, and just act totally inappropriate.

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The two cases that are most prominently in the news are in Colorado Springs, CO, where they have cancelled their hunt, and in Macon, GA, where they are still holding the event, but are warning parents to behave.

According to ABC News, “it’s getting harder and harder for some modern parents to chill out; they’d rather push their children, knock over other children or parents or grab eggs themselves.”  The Macon county officials held a press conference today to warn parents to be on their “best behavior” at tomorrow’s egg hunt and to “let the children do the egg hunting.”

You think this would not have needed an egg-splanation.